An estimated 3.6 million LGBTQ+ people over the age of 50 live in the United States, and by 2030, that number will grow to 7 million. Despite those growing numbers, LGBTQ+ older adults continue to face inequities in health care, housing, and economic security due to discrimination and stigmatization from legislators, elder care workers, and medical professionals, as well as a lack of access to culturally competent healthcare and gender-affirming care.

Because all of these factors contribute to higher rates of depression, dementia, and chronic health conditions among queer elders, the need for queer-inclusive senior housing is rising. As such, the need for dedicated LGBTQ+-affirming retirement communities is more than a luxury — it’s a necessity.

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Why inclusive senior housing matters

The aforementioned inequities are compounded by the fact that LGBTQ+ seniors are twice as likely to live alone and four times less likely to have children than their heterosexual peers, creating an even greater reliance on supportive housing solutions. This lack of traditional family support, combined with a lifetime of stigma and discrimination, can make aging especially isolating.

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According to SAGE (Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders), LGBTQ+ seniors in elder care facilities have been denied the right to share a room with their partner, pressured to hide their identities, or mistreated by staff unfamiliar with queer lives. The fear of going “back in the closet” in a care facility remains a real and painful possibility.

Inclusive retirement communities aim to address these challenges by:

• Ensuring cultural competency training for staff: including the use of affirming language and pronouns; asking respectful and open-ended questions about relationships and family; understanding why LGBTQ+ people might not want to disclose their identities; and acknowledging the unique economic, social, physical, and mental healthcare needs (and relationship styles) of aging queers.
  
• Creating environments where residents can live openly and authentically: Providing awareness training to help facility staff recognize and minimize implicit biases in themselves, their professional colleagues, and other facility residents; teaching community members how to respectfully engage with LGBTQ+ people; and providing various opportunities for LGBTQ+ residents to seek support.
  
• Building spaces for social connection and belonging: Creating community events and opportunities to express and explore queerness through socializing, learning, and artistic engagement; providing a mediator, counselor, office, or ombudsman to assess/address any LGBTQ+ community needs; understanding how isolation and discrimination can uniquely affect queer seniors.

These factors are critical for both the mental and physical health of older LGBTQ+ adults.

LGBTQ+ retirement homes across the U.S.

While the number of communities remains relatively small compared to mainstream options, there are now dedicated LGBTQ+ senior housing developments and retirement villages in multiple states. Here are 21 around the United States:

• Mary’s House (Washington, D.C.)
• Birds of a Feather (Pecos, New Mexico)
• The Palms of Manasota (Palmetto, Florida)
• Stonewall Gardens (Palm Springs, California)
• The Connie House (Boynton Beach, Florida)
• A Place for Us (Cleveland, Ohio)
• Triangle Square (West Hollywood, California)
• John C. Anderson Apartments (Philadelphia, Pennsylvania)
• Open House Community at 55 Laguna (San Francisco, California)
• Town Hall Apartments (Chicago, Illinois)
• Fountaingrove Lodge (Santa Rosa, California)
• North Park Senior Apartments (San Diego, California)
• Stonewall House (Brooklyn, New York)
• Crotona Pride House (Bronx, New York)
• Bay Shore Senior Residences (Bayshore, New York)
• Living Out (Palm Springs, California)
• Pride Place (Seattle, Washington)
• The Pryde (Hyde Park, Massachusetts)
• The Opal (Portland, Oregon)
• Rainbow Vista (Gresham, Oregon)
• Village Hearth (Durham, North Carolina)

Many of these developments include independent living, assisted living, or affordable housing options —reflecting the diversity of financial and medical needs among LGBTQ+ elders.

Alternatives to dedicated LGBTQ+ retirement communities

Not every queer elder has access to a specialized retirement community, but there are other options:

• LGBTQ+-friendly senior living facilities: More mainstream retirement communities are adopting anti-discrimination policies, staff training, and LGBTQ+ resident programming.
  
• Nonprofit support: Organizations like the National Resource Center on LGBT Aging and SAGE connect seniors with inclusive housing and care resources.
  
• Inclusive cities: Urban areas with strong LGBTQ+ networks — such as San Francisco, Chicago, Atlanta, and Philadelphia — often provide supportive social services and affirming healthcare options, especially through their queer community centers or others elder care services.

Looking ahead

The U.S. is on the cusp of a demographic shift. By 2030, all Baby Boomers will be over the age of 65, and that includes millions of openly LGBTQ+ adults. Ensuring they can age with dignity requires policy changes, cultural shifts, and investment in inclusive housing.

LGBTQ+ retirement communities represent one part of the solution. They offer safety, visibility, and belonging at a stage of life when many people need it most. But expanding access — through both dedicated communities and wider adoption of affirming practices in mainstream senior housing —remains essential.

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